I'm so frickin worried for my friend... I've known him for like, forever, and these past few days he's just been hella depressed and even suicidal. He has all these problems that I can relate to, but I can't even help him with them. What kind of sh*tty friend am I if I can't even help one of my best friends? Even when I've had the same exact problems, I don't know how to make him feel better! I'm just so damn frustrated at myself... If any of you can help (if anyone even READS this...), please leave a post... So he has all these problems, some of them are private and I can't reveal them, but I'll generalize them, and say the main points.
1) He's feeling HELLA guilty about rejecting this girl that asked him out. He told her that he'd rather just be friends, since he likes someone else, but he's one of the people who never wants to cause anyone any pain, and would much rather take the weight of the world on his shoulders if it meant that the people around him were happy, even if they were strangers to him.
2) He really likes this girl, but he's too shy to ask her out. He's all stressed and scared that she's going to be asked out by someone else, because he knows that someone else likes her, and apparently she's pretty and sort of popular too. So, in addition to the guilt of rejecting someone, he has the tension of indirectly being rejected.
3) His family has LOTS of problems right now; his parents are arguing 24/7 almost, his sister is being rebellious (and therefore aggravating the situation), and his house is no longer the safe haven it once was. He feels like he's the only one in the family trying to keep it together. I'd say he's trying to mend the cloth of his family, but every time he tried to sew up a tear, another one bursts open, and the ones that he's already mended start to unravel once more. Pretty soon, he's left with nothing but the needle in his hand, and pieces of cloth scattered at his feet, reminiscent of the comforting blanket of family he once had.
4) His grades are going down since he's so stressed (mainly from family problems) and that just proceeds to make him even more stressed. Then, since he's getting more stressed, he has even less focus, and his grades drop even lower. Now, this just causes more parents arguments about how the "opposing side" is causes problems in their children's lives, and my friend also get yelled at for not concentrating on his schoolwork.
This is just the worst thing ever, because I've been through times like this, and I've been depressed and even tried suicide once (thankfully, it didn't work), but I don't even know how to help my friends get out of HIS depression. It's like we were both stuck in the same ditch; I managed to climb out with his help, but I've left him behind, and can't reach him through the meager distance, but also the vast void, separating our fingertips. It's just so stupid, and I'm just furious at myself for not being able to help him. If any of you have been through this, and have ANY idea whatsoever how I can help my friend, PLEASE tell me...
P.S. Thanks so much to Terry, who helped with the first two problems before he had to leave. THANK YOU!!!
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